Back in July of 2008, I started the "Overcoming Botkin Syndrome" blog to specifically address the problems inherent in the teachings of Vision Forum's Biblical Patriarchy and their affiliated Visionary Daughters teachings. Many of those earliest posts already appear here, but I copied them over to the new blog and expanded upon them over the past year and a half. I hope to continue to add to the material on the Overcoming Botkin Syndrome site, a descriptive term that I'd used as a humorous reference in an online discussion somewhere that other people there made into a more common term.
There are a few new and relevant references that I'd like to post there in upcoming weeks.
I worked regularly to post lots of information on this other site some time ago, and sometimes I forget how much "good stuff" appears there.
In this previous post, I mentioned the Biblical foundations for the concept we more frequently hear referred to as "self-esteem." Dr. David Stoop also describes concept in "Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves":
The fact that they came from a home where secrecy was so prevalent makes them feel even worse about themselves. “Don’t talk” is always a cardinal rule in abusive homes...
Many people struggle with the idea that we are supposed to “love ourselves.” It sounds so selfish. Actually, Jesus does not so much teach that we should love ourselves as he assumes that we do love ourselves. And why not? Are we not created in the very image and likeness of God? Is our welfare not of such importance to God that “even the hairs on our heads are all numbered? Should we not love the things God loves, including ourselves?”
Read the entire post HERE.
And, if this topic is helpful to you, it might be worth spending some time looking at the resources on the Overcoming Botkin Syndrome Blog for encouragement and reading recommendations. I think that we all struggle with much of the subject matter on the blog from time to time, but the Quiverful Daughters do so every day (whether they realize it or not). Self-Love is largely prohibited if not punished, and self-blame rules and reigns. I suppose that it is a sad commentary on many of the Quiverfull Parents' own comprehension of God's grace.