As I mentioned in a recent post, in my former cultic church, whenever there was an issue in a marriage, leadership perceived issues of sin in the lives of husbands to be a response to the wife's refusal of his authority or her lack of care for his needs. If there was a marital problem and a wife approached the elders to confront her husband, it was incumbent upon that woman to prove that she had not created a situation that caused her husband to sin. I also recall Jen Epstein's account of her experience at Boerne Christian Assembly where it was always assumed that a wife was "the squeaky wheel" in the relationship. I know this to be sadly true of these spiritually abusive churches based on my observations of the activities in my own former group.
How often is this heard in patriocentric camps and cults, in the words of this young woman on this video clip?
"Why was it my fault? Because I was the lady."